The Cycle of domestic violence
The Cycle of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence rarely happens “out of the blue.”
It follows a repeating pattern — one that traps many victims in confusion, guilt, and fear.
This pattern is known as the Cycle of Abuse, and it has four key stages:
1. Tension Building Phase
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The abuser becomes increasingly irritable, critical, or moody.
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The victim feels like they're "walking on eggshells."
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There may be emotional abuse, silent treatment, passive-aggressiveness.
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Victims often try to calm things down — by pleasing, staying quiet, or avoiding conflict.
? Signs: Withdrawal, increased anxiety, fear of “doing something wrong.”
2. Incident (Explosion)
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This is the actual abusive event: verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual violence.
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The abuser lashes out in anger, blaming the victim or accusing them of provoking it.
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It may last minutes or hours — but it leaves deep emotional and/or physical scars.
? The violence may escalate over time in frequency and intensity.
3. Reconciliation (Honeymoon Phase)
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The abuser may apologize, bring gifts, cry, or make promises: “It will never happen again.”
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They may blame stress, alcohol, or circumstances — but avoid full accountability.
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The victim often feels relief and hope. Love resurfaces.
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This phase can feel confusing, even loving — which is what makes it so dangerous.
? This is where trauma bonding often strengthens.
4. Calm (False Stability)
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A temporary peace follows. The relationship may appear "normal."
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The abuser may act as if nothing happened or reward the victim for staying.
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The victim may suppress memories of abuse or question whether it was “really that bad.”
? But tension slowly builds again… and the cycle restarts.
Why Do Victims Stay?
Because this cycle creates emotional confusion and dependence.
Victims often hope for change, fear retaliation, or blame themselves.
They may also be financially, emotionally, or socially isolated.
But no matter how often apologies come — abuse is never love.
And the longer the cycle continues, the more dangerous it can become.
SELF HELP
Breaking the Cycle
Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly hard — and dangerous without support.
But recognizing the pattern is the first step toward healing, safety, and freedom.
You're not weak for staying.
You're not wrong for loving someone who hurts you.
But you do deserve better. Always.
Recognize Domestic Violence and help yourself to take back your power as Jana
Are you or someone you care about experiencing fear, control, or harm at home?
This book is a vital guide to understanding the signs of domestic violence, helping you see through the pain and confusion. Learn how to recognize abusive patterns, protect yourself, and find a path toward safety and healing.If you’re looking for hope, support, and practical advice, this book is here to help you reclaim your life.
Begin your journey to freedom and empowerment today — because everyone deserves to live free from violence.
Healing from Domestic Abuse
Domestic violence leaves deep emotional scars, but healing is possible. The book From Prague to Florida and back is a self-help guide designed to support survivors on their journey to overcome domestic abuse and reclaim their lives. By recognizing domestic violence patterns and understanding the effects of abuse, you can begin to break free from the cycle and build a safer, healthier future.
Empowerment After Domestic Violence
Empowerment is at the heart of recovery. Through practical advice and emotional support, this book also helps abuse survivors develop safety plans, build self-confidence, and regain control over their lives. Whether you are just starting to recognize the signs of abuse or are already on your path to healing, these strategies will help you navigate the challenges ahead.
Coping with Domestic Violence and Rebuilding Your Life
Coping with domestic violence can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to face it alone. This book offers guidance on emotional healing, managing trauma, and finding resources for support. Survivor stories inspire hope, reminding you that recovery is possible and that a fulfilling life beyond abuse awaits.